I have been attending church with my brother’s family for about six months now, and I love it. In the last couple of weeks I have started to get to know people and get more involved. This weekend I helped paint some animal posters for VBS.
While painting I knew I was reaching the “next level” of group acceptance because I was added to a couple committees.
I also knew I was next level because one of the elder’s wives started talking up one of the single men at church.
“Hm… _____ is single, isn’t he?”
“Yes!”
“If only we knew someone else who was single…”
I looked up to see five pairs of eyes looking at me. I said, “Uh… Do you want the number of my single friends?”
I love feeling like I’m more accepted, but I do not like that with that feeling comes this expectation that it’s suddenly ok to inquire about my personal life or dating history or dating future.
There has to be more to a relationship than existing as a single person in a congregation. “You’re both Christians so you should date.” No thanks! Also, if a man wants to date he can ask me and we can decide that outside of the scope of five people who I haven’t known very long. ALSO, I am just now starting to make friends so please PLEASE don’t make the men at church fear me because you are bored and trying to play matchmaker.
Redheaded Jill 
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