Redheaded Jill

I have decided I want to become an optimist. I want to be so obnoxiously optimistic that I can add a positive spin to almost any situation. If God uses all things for good, then surely I can find good in all situations. (Kind of a broad statement, but ya know… Within reason…)

I am trying to do this for day to day situations, so that I am always in a place of thankfulness and gratitude. I am also trying to spin things so that I can battle my low self esteem or unkind inner voice.

Example: I see a handsome guy and we make eye contact. Instead of assuming he is disgusted or would never want to talk to me I smile and think, “Hm… maybe he thought I looked nice.”

Example 2: I miss my turn when traveling to a new place. I am now running 5 minutes late for my appointment. If I had made the turn or been on time I might have been in a horrible accident! This missed turn might have saved my life. If it takes a little longer to get somewhere, as long as I arrive safely everything is fine.

Example 3: Someone wants to set you up with their friend. You are not interested. Instead of thinking, “He’s not cute. Why would they want me to meet this guy? Do they think I’m desperate?” Think, “Oh. How flattering. They are good friends with this guy and they like me enough to introduce me. I can say no and have boundaries, but still be flattered and thankful.”

The law of assumption. If you’re going to assume something why not assume the best? If you don’t have evidence that someone thinks x then why couldn’t they be thinking y? You might not have evidence that the handsome man thought you were cute, but you don’t have evidence that he thought you were ugly, so why not think the best?

It could verge on the line of conceit if one isn’t careful. But I don’t think someone becomes more deserving the meaner they are to themself. We can think positively and have a healthy self esteem without being cruel to ourselves.

Maybe it’s living in fantasy land, but that’s what I’m going to do. So… come visit sometime. It’s a fun place.