Redheaded Jill

There’s an Instagram account to a guy named Christian Walker, and he says some pretty amazing things.

He talks a lot about dating and marriage and expectations Women should have and how not to fall for guys who aren’t interested in commitment.

The other day, someone said, Christian I’m really desperate to get married… And he stopped reading and said (I’m paraphrasing…)

Don’t use the word desperate. Desperation scares quality men away. It lures in untrustworthy men who will take advantage of that desperation. Build a life for yourself that is so fulfilling that a man will have to compete with your life to earn you. Don’t sit around waiting, Putting together a good life will attract good people to it.

It’s not like he invented this idea, but it sounded so mind blowing when I heard that video.

There have been times in my life where I felt desperation, but I think more than anything I fear it from others. I fear the little old ladies at church who are so desperate for me to be married because they think I’m sad. I fear going places where I know a lot of my friends will be because most of them are in relationships or married with children, and I feel like it’s super obvious that I am not among their ranks. But I’m not so desperate that I would settle for the first random guy who came along.

If I can succeed in business and make enough money to hire people to do all the manual labor I need a man for I think I would be pretty content alone. 🤷🏻‍♀️